Welcome to Lighthouse Women

Supporting, inspiring & connecting childless women globally.

You're not alone anymore; Welcome to your community.

Hello and welcome - I'm Jody Day, the founder of Gateway Women and the author of Living the Life Unexpected and I'm incredibly proud to welcome you to the only ID-checked online community for permanently involuntarily childless women in the world. 

Over the last 10 years, we've built a reputation for being a trusted, kind, creative and confidential space for childless women to find support, understanding and friendship online.

If you're a new member, welcome; we know what a big deal it is to join... so many of us have lost our sense of safety in a group of women, whether online or in real life, and we will take very tender care of you. If you're an old member returning because life's thrown you a curveball, you know we'll support you through it, and I hope you'll love all the new features, events and subgroups we now offer!

Any questions before joining, please email us at [email protected] and our Community Manger Sonia will get back to you. .

Is this the right community for me?

Membership requirements The Gateway Women online community is for women who are permanently involuntarily childless, for any reason at all. It is not suitable for you if you are childless-by-choice (childfree) or still hopeful of creating a biological or adoptive family in some way either on your own or with a partner. If this describes your situation, there are some other online groups that might be a better fit for you right now and you can explore our list of resources here

We also respectfully request that you do not join our community if you are a childless coach, therapist or service provider currently offering, or planning to offer such things as workshops, events, groups or communities, etc. (either free or paid) for childless women. If you are unsure whether it would be appropriate for you to join, please email us first at [email protected] and we'd be happy to advise. If you would like to collaborate with Gateway Women or have something you're planning which you feel our members might be interested in, please reach out to Sonia, our Community Manager at [email protected] and she'd be delighted to discuss it with you.

Cost Our community is free to join for the first month, after which we charge GBP£15 / USD $18 / EUR €16  per month (all currencies accepted and automatically converted). We also offer donation-based and reduced memberships and/or payment holidays for any member who needs our support - we have always done so and continue to do so during the pandemic. We are not funded by any public or private organisation and operates as a not-for-profit. We are not a wealthy organisation and we are entirely supported by our members. And if you would like to request support with your membership fees now, or at any time in the future, please email us confidentially at [email protected]

ID-checking: If you're new to Gateway Women, you'll need to clear our manual ID-check process before we can open our doors fully to you (something we do to keep the space free of parents, men and fertility-spammers) and this may take 24-72 hours. If you've applied to join and want to check your application status, please check your spam folder and then email us at [email protected] and we'll get back to you within 24 hours, except on Sundays. 

Privacy: Gateway Women understands how private and sensitive childlessness is and we take very good care of your data. You can read more about Gateway Women's privacy policy here, and the overall policy of Mighty Networks here.  Please note that by requesting membership of our online community you will be added to our mailing list, you can request to be removed from this by emailing us at [email protected] or by clicking unsubscribe in the monthly update email. 

Any other questions? Feel free to email us at [email protected] for membership admin or technical support and one our membership team will get back to you. Don't be shy - we don't bite and we do understand how scary it can feel to reach out for the first time around this...

What's inside?

Community Zoom Cafes  - live, moderated group weekend group zoom chats for members only. Such a lovely way to 'put a face to the names' of those women that you are likely to form some lifelong friendships with.

Trigger Days Support Chats – live, round-the-clock moderated support chats on key days such as Mothering Sunday, Mother’s Day, Thanksgiving, Christmas and the Holidays.

Gateway Gatherings our global network of in-person social gatherings from childless women in the UK, Europe, Israel, USA, Canada, Australia and NZ. Although most are operating via Zoom at the moment, some in Australia and NZ are meeting again in person. If you'd like to host or attend one in your area, come and join us!

35+ Special Interest Subgroups including: Jody's Reading Group for those working through her book Living the Life Unexpected; The Single Life for our unpartnered members and one for Childless Couples too, including a Childless Stepmother. Nomo Tribe for our members who are through the really tough griefy days; the world's only Childless LGBTQIA+ group and one for Women of Colour too; a Nomo Book Club as well as a Writer's Group; a group to support our Childless Christian members as well as Childless Mishpacha for our Jewish members too; a group to support members Living with Chronic Illness/Disability as well as those Healing from Trauma; Groups for those exploring what it means to be both an HSP and childless, or to be a Childless Adult Adoptee. Groups for our Entrepreneurial/Freelance Members and those looking for a Travel Buddy.  And not forgetting our groups in French, German, Spanish and Dutch! And this is just a selection of groundbreaking, taboo-busting subgroups that you won't find anywhere else!  

Discussion Group Topics are not confined to the selected subgroups above, we also have topics that cover most of the issues that we're dealing with on a day to day basis such as: 

  • New to the Community
  • Resources for Childlessness
  • Dealing with Other People
  • Other People's Kids (see also our subgroup 'Childless Stepmothers')
  • Friendship Issues
  • Relationships
  • Childless due to Infertility
  • Childless by Circumstance
  • Childless by Relationship
  • Grief & Loss
  • Solo GWs (see also our subgroup 'The Single Life')
  • Ageing Without Children (see also our subgroup, 'Conscious Childless Elderwomen')
  • Book, Film & TV Recommendations (see also our 'Nomo Book Club' for new non-triggering reads and monthly Zooms with the authors!)
  • LGBTQIA+ (see also our private subgroup 'LGBTQIA+ which is, as far as we know, the only group supporting childlessness for our lesbian, gay and bisexual sisters)
  • Women of Colour (see also our private subgroup 'Women of Colour' hosted by GW facilitator and childlessness campaigner Yvonne John and the only such group we are aware).
  • Childless Christians (see also our subgroup 'Childless Christians' - we also have one for our Jewish members called 'Childless Mishpacha' - both unique as far as we know).
  • Plan B (see also our subgroup, led by Jody Day, for those working through her book 'Living the Life Unexpected')
  • Love, Sexuality & Intimate Relationships
  • Comfort & Inspiration
  • Soul Connection
  • Self Care and Self Compassion
  • Health & Wellbeing
  • Pets
  • Workplace & Career (see also our subgroup for 'Entrepreneurs, Biz Owners & Freelancers')
  • Creatives Corner (see also our subgroups 'The Artists Way' or our 'GW Writer's Group')
  • Travel (see also our 'Travel Buddies' subgroup for those planning trips and looking for company
  • House & Home
  • Etc!

Clear member guidelines to enable our community to continue to be the safe and non-judgemental space members have come to trust, backed up by sensitive and skilful moderation. 

A well-designed MightyNetworks app - go to your App store and search for 'Mighty Networks' to download it, or click the link at the bottom of this screen. We recommend getting to know the community on a computer if possible so that you can see all the features, but having the app to stay in touch on the go is great!

Any questions? Email us at [email protected] and Sonia, our Community Manager, will get back to you!

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